I've got customer's audit these two weeks, so I have been busy since the first day (last Monday) I joined back my ex-company. Today it has finally ended. Basically customers are all happy, which is good.
Just now, I rushed to attend my CFP class after work. I have missed so many classes lately. I think if I miss classes again, my attendance will be too low to allow me to sit for the exam next month. So I'd better catch up, no matter how tight my schedule is.
Came back home at 9 p.m., took my shower, cooked simple dinner... now I'm home alone, listening to Jack Johnson's CD, drinking my favorite Japanese green tea, watching the rain outside, unwinding and trying to find a moment of peace.... moment like this has become very precious to me lately... since the day my Dad passed away, things have been moving in a fast-forward pace. Basically I have flew around 14 times in the past 2 months... I'm both physically and mentally tired. I think I need to sleep for one full day.
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Tuesday, November 09, 2010
Sunday, November 07, 2010
Finally, a moment alone...
It has been one month since Dad passed away.
The whole of October has been a busy and drastic month to me:
6th Oct - Dad passed away
16th-26th Oct - I went to China (as Dad wished, I 'brought' him to the Expo)
28th-30th Oct - Back to Sibu to discuss with family on Dad's tomb design and his other matters
1st Nov - Back to my ex-company and started working (as Dad wished)
3rd-7th Nov - Mum and bro were in town
Now finally, I get some time to settle down, sitting in front of my computer, looking back at what happened, working on what still need to be done, and thinking of what to do next.
From time to time, dad will appear in my mind, my heart will start to hurt again, eyes become wet, nose turns red. I know time will heal this deep deep hole in my heart. For the time being, I just wanna keep myself extremely busy and occupied, so that I don't get too much time missing him...
...BUT I REALLY MISS HIM SO SO MUCH................
God, why do you have to take him away from me and my family???... You should know how important he is to me in this world.....................
The whole of October has been a busy and drastic month to me:
6th Oct - Dad passed away
16th-26th Oct - I went to China (as Dad wished, I 'brought' him to the Expo)
28th-30th Oct - Back to Sibu to discuss with family on Dad's tomb design and his other matters
1st Nov - Back to my ex-company and started working (as Dad wished)
3rd-7th Nov - Mum and bro were in town
Now finally, I get some time to settle down, sitting in front of my computer, looking back at what happened, working on what still need to be done, and thinking of what to do next.
From time to time, dad will appear in my mind, my heart will start to hurt again, eyes become wet, nose turns red. I know time will heal this deep deep hole in my heart. For the time being, I just wanna keep myself extremely busy and occupied, so that I don't get too much time missing him...
...BUT I REALLY MISS HIM SO SO MUCH................
God, why do you have to take him away from me and my family???... You should know how important he is to me in this world.....................
Wednesday, September 08, 2010
Being opinionate and judgmental
I have come across some very opinionate and judgmental persons. They tend to stress me up. I used to be very opinionate and judgmental too. However as I age, I found that things always have many sides, it depends on which side we view things from. There is often no strict right or wrong to a lot of things. Therefore there is no point for one to argue or defend his/her opinion and view point too passionately. All it takes is a more forgiving heart to tolerate differences.
Emotion
God created each one of us differently by giving us different level of emotion. Some people were borned very emotional while some were borned cool and easy going.
Being emotional is not necessarily bad. It's important for some of the professions such as artist, actors, musicians, designers, writers to have strong emotion and passion.
However being too emotional can be sometimes quite disastrous to the people around, especially when the person loves to express his/her negative emotion by throwing bad temper, saying words that hurt, showing jealousy, being sacarstic, being self-centered and impulsive, keep nagging, keep complaining etc.
Nowadays I come to appreciate people with cool emotion, as I can sometimes be easily affected by emotional people. I learn to stay away from people that are negative and emotional. These people are sometimes very poisonous and inconstructive.
On the other hand, I really appreciate people like my housemate Pig Pig, who is a super cool person that always come home everyday without showing much strong emotion, despite the stress from work. To her, everyday seems to be a good day, no matter what happened. Sometimes, I think it's a true blessing that God has given her such a kind heart and cool character.
The more I dealt with emotional people nowadays, the more I appreciate peaceful and happy person.
Being emotional is not necessarily bad. It's important for some of the professions such as artist, actors, musicians, designers, writers to have strong emotion and passion.
However being too emotional can be sometimes quite disastrous to the people around, especially when the person loves to express his/her negative emotion by throwing bad temper, saying words that hurt, showing jealousy, being sacarstic, being self-centered and impulsive, keep nagging, keep complaining etc.
Nowadays I come to appreciate people with cool emotion, as I can sometimes be easily affected by emotional people. I learn to stay away from people that are negative and emotional. These people are sometimes very poisonous and inconstructive.
On the other hand, I really appreciate people like my housemate Pig Pig, who is a super cool person that always come home everyday without showing much strong emotion, despite the stress from work. To her, everyday seems to be a good day, no matter what happened. Sometimes, I think it's a true blessing that God has given her such a kind heart and cool character.
The more I dealt with emotional people nowadays, the more I appreciate peaceful and happy person.
Wednesday, September 01, 2010
Retirement
My dad and I talked about blogging tonight. I asked him to start writing and faxing to me so that I can help him set up a blog and post articles on daily basis. I do this out of the intention to keep him busy, as he seems so bored with his retirement life.
I wonder what I'll be doing during my retirement years... mostly likely I'll be traveling around with my retired friends, playing mahjong, reading & writing, chatting online, monitoring stock market...
Hmm... seems like I'm actually living it now.
I wonder what I'll be doing during my retirement years... mostly likely I'll be traveling around with my retired friends, playing mahjong, reading & writing, chatting online, monitoring stock market...
Hmm... seems like I'm actually living it now.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
You are what you think
One thing I learned this year 'You are what you think'. When our mind decides to do something, our body will act upon it, sometimes even unconsciously or subconsciously. Therefore if we wish to achieve something, it is important to sit down and set the goals and plans clearly. You would be surprised how easy your wish can come true sometimes. This is because you have 'pre-conditioned'/'pre-programmed' your mind to achieve it.
A lot of time, we are standing at a cross-road, not knowing what we want and where we are going next. Take time off to think carefully, read books to seek for inspiration, pray for direction, pay attention to things happened around us, observe and think more. Eventually at one point, we will find the answers.
So, do not just wake up and live another day without giving much thought to what difference you can make to the people and the world around you. In fact, everyone has the power to make a difference, if you want to.
Yesterday I saw these two interesting bookmarks on my coffee table. The messages say:
"Make a difference: Go out into the world UNCORRUPTED, a breath of FRESH AIR in this squlid and polluted society. Provide people with a glimpse of good living and of the LIVING GOD. Carry the light-giving message into the night. - Philippians 2:14-16".
"Discover your life's purpose: Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that... Each of you must take responsibility for doing the CREATIVE BEST you can with your own life. - Galatians 6:4-5".
It makes me think. I like it and think it's inspiring.
A lot of time, we are standing at a cross-road, not knowing what we want and where we are going next. Take time off to think carefully, read books to seek for inspiration, pray for direction, pay attention to things happened around us, observe and think more. Eventually at one point, we will find the answers.
So, do not just wake up and live another day without giving much thought to what difference you can make to the people and the world around you. In fact, everyone has the power to make a difference, if you want to.
Yesterday I saw these two interesting bookmarks on my coffee table. The messages say:
"Make a difference: Go out into the world UNCORRUPTED, a breath of FRESH AIR in this squlid and polluted society. Provide people with a glimpse of good living and of the LIVING GOD. Carry the light-giving message into the night. - Philippians 2:14-16".
"Discover your life's purpose: Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that... Each of you must take responsibility for doing the CREATIVE BEST you can with your own life. - Galatians 6:4-5".
It makes me think. I like it and think it's inspiring.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Timing vs Opportunity
I read a book called 'Outliers' recently. It talks about timing and opportunity.
From there I realized, we are who we are primarily because of the year (generation) we were born. My grandparent's generation is more unlucky, as they were borned in China in early 1900s, and they were forced to go through WWI and WWII, moving around and living in poverty. So majority of that generation lived in poverty and instability, regardless if they worked hard or not. That's why many of them came to South East Asia, trying to look for better opportunity to survive, and there my parent's generation were born.
Our parents were born in the generation (those born in 1930s-1940s and reached their adulthood in 1950s-1960s) that if they work hard, they will survive better than others. That explains why there are so many successful self-grown entrepreneurs in that generation. The community at that time was still not as competitive, so long as one is hard working and frugal, after years of working, he should have some capital and knowledge to start his own business in the small town, with very little competition. Of course, if one happened to be in a bigger town, then the chance of him become wealthier than those living in a small town after 10-20 years, is much higher. The success of this generation is mainly owing to the fact that the world after WWII has growing population and demand for goods, hence many basic businesses were in demand.
Of course, if a person holds a tertiary qualification at that time (1950s-1960s), it's almost guaranteed that he/she will be groomed into a leader in government sector or in the corporate world because most people only have high school qualification. College graduates were rare in that generation, which means they were not necessarily smarter or more hard working than others, they just have a better opportunity than others, owing to their family financial status plus more importantly, the timing they were borned. If they were born 10-20 years later, they would most likely lose all their advantages, even if they were from wealthier family.
So what are the advantages of those being born in 1970s, i.e. people like us?? Oh well, think carefully. We were among the first generation to have computer at home during our high school age. Then we were the first generation having internet when we just came out from college. (Internet only became commercialized after 1990 and growed explosively in 1996-1997.) So what does this fact make us?? It makes most of us professionals. Due to the change from Industrial to Information Age, there were high demand for profession such as engineers, IT experts, corporate managers etc. Hence, these professions tend to have better job opportunity and better income. That also in a way explains why there are less among us that become an entrepreneur.
So what are the advantages of those being born in 1980s-1990s? In my opinion, the world has moved from localization to globalization in recent years, which means there are higher demand for internet business. Therefore many who studied window programming or php language etc in college, have the advantage to start up as online entrepreneurs and be the masters in the cyber world. We were born earlier, where the programming languages we were taught in school were mostly out-dated. Unless we took initiative to re-learn the latest IT knowledge again, we do not own any advantage in this current high demand area.
There you see, isn't the timing in which we were born important in determining who we become? Some generations are particularly unfortunate, while some generations are just super lucky. Of course, besides timing, how successful we become in our field also depends on the location we are at, our IQ+EQ+attitude. It's what chinese called '天时，地利，人和' (timing, location, human factors).
Anyway, I consider our generation the luckier one. What do you think??
From there I realized, we are who we are primarily because of the year (generation) we were born. My grandparent's generation is more unlucky, as they were borned in China in early 1900s, and they were forced to go through WWI and WWII, moving around and living in poverty. So majority of that generation lived in poverty and instability, regardless if they worked hard or not. That's why many of them came to South East Asia, trying to look for better opportunity to survive, and there my parent's generation were born.
Our parents were born in the generation (those born in 1930s-1940s and reached their adulthood in 1950s-1960s) that if they work hard, they will survive better than others. That explains why there are so many successful self-grown entrepreneurs in that generation. The community at that time was still not as competitive, so long as one is hard working and frugal, after years of working, he should have some capital and knowledge to start his own business in the small town, with very little competition. Of course, if one happened to be in a bigger town, then the chance of him become wealthier than those living in a small town after 10-20 years, is much higher. The success of this generation is mainly owing to the fact that the world after WWII has growing population and demand for goods, hence many basic businesses were in demand.
Of course, if a person holds a tertiary qualification at that time (1950s-1960s), it's almost guaranteed that he/she will be groomed into a leader in government sector or in the corporate world because most people only have high school qualification. College graduates were rare in that generation, which means they were not necessarily smarter or more hard working than others, they just have a better opportunity than others, owing to their family financial status plus more importantly, the timing they were borned. If they were born 10-20 years later, they would most likely lose all their advantages, even if they were from wealthier family.
So what are the advantages of those being born in 1970s, i.e. people like us?? Oh well, think carefully. We were among the first generation to have computer at home during our high school age. Then we were the first generation having internet when we just came out from college. (Internet only became commercialized after 1990 and growed explosively in 1996-1997.) So what does this fact make us?? It makes most of us professionals. Due to the change from Industrial to Information Age, there were high demand for profession such as engineers, IT experts, corporate managers etc. Hence, these professions tend to have better job opportunity and better income. That also in a way explains why there are less among us that become an entrepreneur.
So what are the advantages of those being born in 1980s-1990s? In my opinion, the world has moved from localization to globalization in recent years, which means there are higher demand for internet business. Therefore many who studied window programming or php language etc in college, have the advantage to start up as online entrepreneurs and be the masters in the cyber world. We were born earlier, where the programming languages we were taught in school were mostly out-dated. Unless we took initiative to re-learn the latest IT knowledge again, we do not own any advantage in this current high demand area.
There you see, isn't the timing in which we were born important in determining who we become? Some generations are particularly unfortunate, while some generations are just super lucky. Of course, besides timing, how successful we become in our field also depends on the location we are at, our IQ+EQ+attitude. It's what chinese called '天时，地利，人和' (timing, location, human factors).
Anyway, I consider our generation the luckier one. What do you think??
Tuesday, July 06, 2010
十年前的媽媽
A good one...
十年前的媽媽
文/于東輝
那是一個老師告訴我的故事，至今都珍藏心裡，讓自己明白在人世界，其實不應該放過每一個能夠幫助別人的機會。也許你早已忘記，但這種光，卻可以溫暖一個個冷漠的心靈。
那是在十年前的一天，當這位老師正利用中午休息時間，在家裡睡覺時，突然間，電話鈴響了，她接過來一聽，裡面卻傳出一個陌生粗暴的聲音說：「你家的小孩偷書，現在被我們抓住了，你快來啊！」
在話筒裡還傳出一個小女孩的哭鬧聲，和旁邊人的喝叱聲。
她回頭眺望著一邊正在看電視的唯一女兒，心中立即就明白過來。
肯定是有一位小女孩，因為偷書被售貨員抓住了，而又不肯讓家裡人知道，所以，胡編了一個電話號碼，才踫巧打到這裡。
她當然可以放下電話不理，甚至也可以斥責對方，因為這件事，和她沒有任何關係。
但自己是老師，說不定她就是自己的學生呢？
透過電話，她隱約可以設想出，那個一念之差的小女孩，一定非常驚慌害怕，正面臨著也許是人生中最可怕的境地。
猶豫了片刻之後，她的腦海裡突然冒出了一個念頭，對了，就這樣做。
於是，她問清了書店的地址之後，就趕了過去。
正如她預料的那樣，在書店裡站立著一位滿臉淚跡的小女孩，而旁邊的大人們，正惡狠狠的大聲斥責著。
她一下衝上去，將那個可憐的小女孩摟在懷裡，轉身對旁邊的售貨員說道：「有什麼跟我說吧，不要嚇著孩子。」
在售貨員不情願的嘀咕聲中，她交清了幾十元罰款，才領著這個小女孩，走出了書店，並看清楚了那張被淚水與驚恐，弄得一塌糊塗的臉。
她笑了起來，將小女孩領到家中，好好清理了一下，什麼都沒有問，就讓小女孩離開了，臨走時，她還特意叮囑道，如果你要看書，就到阿姨這裡來，裡面有好多書呢。
驚魂未定的小女孩，深深的看了一眼，便飛一般的跑走了，便再也沒有出現。
時間如流水匆匆而過，不知不覺間，十年的光陰，一晃而過，她早已忘記了這件事，依舊住在這裡，過著平靜安祥的生活。
有一天的中午，門外響起了一陣敲門聲。
當她打房門後，看到了一位年輕漂亮的陌生女孩，露著滿臉的笑容，手中還捧著一大堆禮物。
「妳找誰？」她疑惑的問道，但女孩卻激動的說出一大堆話。
好不容易，她才從那個陌生女孩的敘述中，恍然發現，原來她就是當年偷書的那個小女孩，十年之後，已經順利從大學畢業，現在還特意來看望自己。
這個年輕女孩眼睛裡泛著淚光，輕聲說道﹕「雖然我至今都不明白，您為什麼願意冒充我媽媽，解救了我，但我總覺得，這十年來，一直都想喊您一聲∼媽媽！」
老師的眼睛裡，也開始糊模起來，她有些好奇的問道﹕「如果那天我不幫妳，會發生怎樣的結果？」
女孩的臉上，立即變得陰沉下來，輕輕搖著頭說道﹕「我說不清楚，也許就會去做傻事，甚至是去死。」
老師的心中猛然一顫，開始暗暗慶幸。
自己當年在一念之間所做出的決定，竟然可以如此影響到一個人的一生。
望著女孩臉上幸福的笑容，她也一起笑了起來。
逃避.不一定躲的過
面對. 不一定最難受
孤單.不一定不快樂
得到. 不一定能長久
失去.不一定不再有
轉身. 不一定是軟弱
看看現在的自己的生活條件，再回想十年後的自己
也許你現在所做的決定，可以影響自己或另一個人的一生呢！
十年前的媽媽
文/于東輝
那是一個老師告訴我的故事，至今都珍藏心裡，讓自己明白在人世界，其實不應該放過每一個能夠幫助別人的機會。也許你早已忘記，但這種光，卻可以溫暖一個個冷漠的心靈。
那是在十年前的一天，當這位老師正利用中午休息時間，在家裡睡覺時，突然間，電話鈴響了，她接過來一聽，裡面卻傳出一個陌生粗暴的聲音說：「你家的小孩偷書，現在被我們抓住了，你快來啊！」
在話筒裡還傳出一個小女孩的哭鬧聲，和旁邊人的喝叱聲。
她回頭眺望著一邊正在看電視的唯一女兒，心中立即就明白過來。
肯定是有一位小女孩，因為偷書被售貨員抓住了，而又不肯讓家裡人知道，所以，胡編了一個電話號碼，才踫巧打到這裡。
她當然可以放下電話不理，甚至也可以斥責對方，因為這件事，和她沒有任何關係。
但自己是老師，說不定她就是自己的學生呢？
透過電話，她隱約可以設想出，那個一念之差的小女孩，一定非常驚慌害怕，正面臨著也許是人生中最可怕的境地。
猶豫了片刻之後，她的腦海裡突然冒出了一個念頭，對了，就這樣做。
於是，她問清了書店的地址之後，就趕了過去。
正如她預料的那樣，在書店裡站立著一位滿臉淚跡的小女孩，而旁邊的大人們，正惡狠狠的大聲斥責著。
她一下衝上去，將那個可憐的小女孩摟在懷裡，轉身對旁邊的售貨員說道：「有什麼跟我說吧，不要嚇著孩子。」
在售貨員不情願的嘀咕聲中，她交清了幾十元罰款，才領著這個小女孩，走出了書店，並看清楚了那張被淚水與驚恐，弄得一塌糊塗的臉。
她笑了起來，將小女孩領到家中，好好清理了一下，什麼都沒有問，就讓小女孩離開了，臨走時，她還特意叮囑道，如果你要看書，就到阿姨這裡來，裡面有好多書呢。
驚魂未定的小女孩，深深的看了一眼，便飛一般的跑走了，便再也沒有出現。
時間如流水匆匆而過，不知不覺間，十年的光陰，一晃而過，她早已忘記了這件事，依舊住在這裡，過著平靜安祥的生活。
有一天的中午，門外響起了一陣敲門聲。
當她打房門後，看到了一位年輕漂亮的陌生女孩，露著滿臉的笑容，手中還捧著一大堆禮物。
「妳找誰？」她疑惑的問道，但女孩卻激動的說出一大堆話。
好不容易，她才從那個陌生女孩的敘述中，恍然發現，原來她就是當年偷書的那個小女孩，十年之後，已經順利從大學畢業，現在還特意來看望自己。
這個年輕女孩眼睛裡泛著淚光，輕聲說道﹕「雖然我至今都不明白，您為什麼願意冒充我媽媽，解救了我，但我總覺得，這十年來，一直都想喊您一聲∼媽媽！」
老師的眼睛裡，也開始糊模起來，她有些好奇的問道﹕「如果那天我不幫妳，會發生怎樣的結果？」
女孩的臉上，立即變得陰沉下來，輕輕搖著頭說道﹕「我說不清楚，也許就會去做傻事，甚至是去死。」
老師的心中猛然一顫，開始暗暗慶幸。
自己當年在一念之間所做出的決定，竟然可以如此影響到一個人的一生。
望著女孩臉上幸福的笑容，她也一起笑了起來。
逃避.不一定躲的過
面對. 不一定最難受
孤單.不一定不快樂
得到. 不一定能長久
失去.不一定不再有
轉身. 不一定是軟弱
看看現在的自己的生活條件，再回想十年後的自己
也許你現在所做的決定，可以影響自己或另一個人的一生呢！
Bye Bye my Brazil & Argentina!
I watched FIFA World Cup since it began last month. My support goes to Brazil and Argentina. I just love the spirit and the skill of these two South American teams.
Last weekend, I almost cried watching the game between Brazil vs. Netherland. All I can say is I hate the way Netherland played. On the other hand, I was speechless when Brazil's Felipe Melo scored an own goal in the 53rd minute and got himself sent off 20 minutes later for a stamp on Dutch winger Arjen Robben. Well he may have made serious mistakes in this important game but I was actually happy that he stamped Arjen Robben hard for play-acting.
There were just too many simulations and physical attacks from the Netherland team, which the referee just somehow kept one eye closed. I was angry watching it, so as Brazil team, and Robinho was so mad at the way Netherland team played till he shouted fiercely at them many times. I was so sad seeing Kaka cried after losing the game. Basically I just sat there speechless for 1 hour+. Anyway, I think whichever team wearing dark blue shirts will sure lose the game. Brazil is supposed to wear their famous yellow that day, not dark blue.
Then I watched the next game between Uruguay and Ghana. I supported Ghana as they were the only African team left. In the quarter final tie against Uruguay, Ghana's Asamoah Gyan missed a penalty in the last minute of extra time hitting the crossbar. He converted his penalty in the subsequent penalty shootout, but Uruguay went on to win the shootout 4-2. There, I went speechless again.
Before watching the following game of my last favorite team Argentina against Germany, I prayed hard that Argentina will win the game and go on to win the World Cup. Who knows... they scored a big fat zero and ended with a shocking 4-0 defeat against Germany.
Oh well, after watching almost 60 world cup games since last month, my conclusion is.... the problem is probably, ME.
Basically whichever teams that I supported sure ended up losing the game, including my favorite Brazil and Argentina. I joked about this with Pig Pig and guess what, she shared the same feelings as me that whichever teams that she supported also lost the games eventually.
Now, it seems that Germany and Netherland are likely to make it to the Final. Since I hate Netherland team so much, I choose to support Germany. If Germany too lose the game, then I shall conclude without any doubt that it's ME, who brought bad luck to all the losing teams, nothing to do with the dark blue shirts, and I shall not watch FIFA World Cup 2014 for my favorite teams sake.
Don't cry for me Argentina
The truth is I never left you
All through my wild days
My mad existence
I kept my promise
Don't keep your distance...
Last weekend, I almost cried watching the game between Brazil vs. Netherland. All I can say is I hate the way Netherland played. On the other hand, I was speechless when Brazil's Felipe Melo scored an own goal in the 53rd minute and got himself sent off 20 minutes later for a stamp on Dutch winger Arjen Robben. Well he may have made serious mistakes in this important game but I was actually happy that he stamped Arjen Robben hard for play-acting.
There were just too many simulations and physical attacks from the Netherland team, which the referee just somehow kept one eye closed. I was angry watching it, so as Brazil team, and Robinho was so mad at the way Netherland team played till he shouted fiercely at them many times. I was so sad seeing Kaka cried after losing the game. Basically I just sat there speechless for 1 hour+. Anyway, I think whichever team wearing dark blue shirts will sure lose the game. Brazil is supposed to wear their famous yellow that day, not dark blue.
Then I watched the next game between Uruguay and Ghana. I supported Ghana as they were the only African team left. In the quarter final tie against Uruguay, Ghana's Asamoah Gyan missed a penalty in the last minute of extra time hitting the crossbar. He converted his penalty in the subsequent penalty shootout, but Uruguay went on to win the shootout 4-2. There, I went speechless again.
Before watching the following game of my last favorite team Argentina against Germany, I prayed hard that Argentina will win the game and go on to win the World Cup. Who knows... they scored a big fat zero and ended with a shocking 4-0 defeat against Germany.
Oh well, after watching almost 60 world cup games since last month, my conclusion is.... the problem is probably, ME.
Basically whichever teams that I supported sure ended up losing the game, including my favorite Brazil and Argentina. I joked about this with Pig Pig and guess what, she shared the same feelings as me that whichever teams that she supported also lost the games eventually.
Now, it seems that Germany and Netherland are likely to make it to the Final. Since I hate Netherland team so much, I choose to support Germany. If Germany too lose the game, then I shall conclude without any doubt that it's ME, who brought bad luck to all the losing teams, nothing to do with the dark blue shirts, and I shall not watch FIFA World Cup 2014 for my favorite teams sake.
Don't cry for me Argentina
The truth is I never left you
All through my wild days
My mad existence
I kept my promise
Don't keep your distance...
I am not an outlier
Months ago, I quit my job for freedom, i.e. flexible working hour.
Weeks ago, I was prompted to write down my life purpose on a card during a workshop, which I wrote "To make a difference in my life, and in other's life".
So I want freedom and want to make a difference.
Yesterday I read a magazine and saw a survey about 'What tomorrow's Malaysian workers want'. Guess what??
Survey A:
31% - Flexible working arrangements
26% - Performance-based cash bonuses
15% - Paid academic training & development
12% - Exposure to advanced social activities
8% - A good company pension plan
8% - Paid time off to do charity work
Survey B:
43% - The knowledge that I am making a difference in the world
29% - Quality relationships
28% - As high a profile as possible - as quickly as possible
I smiled while reading it, thinking to myself that I am not really an outlier after all. I am just may be more daring than others in taking action to pursue what most of us wish for.
Weeks ago, I was prompted to write down my life purpose on a card during a workshop, which I wrote "To make a difference in my life, and in other's life".
So I want freedom and want to make a difference.
Yesterday I read a magazine and saw a survey about 'What tomorrow's Malaysian workers want'. Guess what??
Survey A:
31% - Flexible working arrangements
26% - Performance-based cash bonuses
15% - Paid academic training & development
12% - Exposure to advanced social activities
8% - A good company pension plan
8% - Paid time off to do charity work
Survey B:
43% - The knowledge that I am making a difference in the world
29% - Quality relationships
28% - As high a profile as possible - as quickly as possible
I smiled while reading it, thinking to myself that I am not really an outlier after all. I am just may be more daring than others in taking action to pursue what most of us wish for.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
老伴
This one is good too:
請問：您有幾個老伴？
「老伴」在銀髮族的世界裡占了非常重要的地位，因為，兒女們忙碌的忙碌，離家的離家，身旁是否有幾位談得來的陪伴者成了不可忽略的事。
過去，「老伴」是指婚姻關係裡的配偶，是孩子的爹娘，如今，社會價值觀在演變，加上老年喪偶的情形也不在少數，「老伴」應該擴大為泛指可以「老來作伴」的親朋好友，不再單指家中的老夫老妻。
銀髮族一定要走出家門、走進社區、參與社會的脈動，更重要的是去結交「老伴」!
哪些人可能成為你的老伴呢？
1. 原生家庭的兄弟姊妹。
2. 家中的兒女和孫姪輩的年輕人。
3. 過去的同事、同學。
4. 社區的鄰居。
5. 成長課室的學員。
6. 宗教團體的教友。
7. 來探望的社工員或志工。
建議您花個 5分鐘，列下您目前相處中「老伴」的數目，如果至少有 20位，表示您的銀髮生涯「非常充實 」。
如果至少有10 位，表示您的銀髮生涯「相當充實」。
如果只有 5位左右，那麼一定要有危機意識，因為支持網絡越薄弱，銀髮生涯「不夠充實」，日益退縮的日子也就不遠了。
「每天早上醒來，想到大伙兒要去『玩』，就是很開心！」一位過去非常「黏」老妻的銀髮伯伯，終於聽從老妻的建議，參加「吃喝玩樂派」.
他笑呵呵地說：「我的生活一下子多了20多個好朋友，幾乎都是夫妻檔，今天去爬山，明天去看畫展，後天去吃民間小吃，大家輪流安排，錢又不用花費很多，生活變得充實多了。」
原來，「老伴」是多多益善，因為每個人都有不同的人生歷練和生活智慧，當彼此擦出生命的火花時，那種笑聲、招呼聲和分享的話語，在在刺激著身心的活力哩！
*記住哦！「老伴」不能只有一個！看看四周吧！*
請問：您有幾個老伴？
「老伴」在銀髮族的世界裡占了非常重要的地位，因為，兒女們忙碌的忙碌，離家的離家，身旁是否有幾位談得來的陪伴者成了不可忽略的事。
過去，「老伴」是指婚姻關係裡的配偶，是孩子的爹娘，如今，社會價值觀在演變，加上老年喪偶的情形也不在少數，「老伴」應該擴大為泛指可以「老來作伴」的親朋好友，不再單指家中的老夫老妻。
銀髮族一定要走出家門、走進社區、參與社會的脈動，更重要的是去結交「老伴」!
哪些人可能成為你的老伴呢？
1. 原生家庭的兄弟姊妹。
2. 家中的兒女和孫姪輩的年輕人。
3. 過去的同事、同學。
4. 社區的鄰居。
5. 成長課室的學員。
6. 宗教團體的教友。
7. 來探望的社工員或志工。
建議您花個 5分鐘，列下您目前相處中「老伴」的數目，如果至少有 20位，表示您的銀髮生涯「非常充實 」。
如果至少有10 位，表示您的銀髮生涯「相當充實」。
如果只有 5位左右，那麼一定要有危機意識，因為支持網絡越薄弱，銀髮生涯「不夠充實」，日益退縮的日子也就不遠了。
「每天早上醒來，想到大伙兒要去『玩』，就是很開心！」一位過去非常「黏」老妻的銀髮伯伯，終於聽從老妻的建議，參加「吃喝玩樂派」.
他笑呵呵地說：「我的生活一下子多了20多個好朋友，幾乎都是夫妻檔，今天去爬山，明天去看畫展，後天去吃民間小吃，大家輪流安排，錢又不用花費很多，生活變得充實多了。」
原來，「老伴」是多多益善，因為每個人都有不同的人生歷練和生活智慧，當彼此擦出生命的火花時，那種笑聲、招呼聲和分享的話語，在在刺激著身心的活力哩！
*記住哦！「老伴」不能只有一個！看看四周吧！*
Tuesday, June 08, 2010
找一個能隨時隨地聊天的人
I read this today, I like it:
找一個能隨時隨地聊天的人
四十以後才明白： 好朋友是應該相互欣賞，而不是相互利用。 好朋友只能在同一階層中產生，而窮人和富人，百姓與達官，草根與明星，白丁與學者則永遠也成不了真正意義上的朋友。 因為不在同一階層，便永遠也不會有對方對本階層的深刻體會與感悟。
四十以後才明白： 飯應該一口一口的吃，事要一點一點的做。
沒有一蹴而就的事情，所以就不應該疲於奔命。中年，應該活得從容。
四十以後才明白：任何事物都是有兩重性的，有時候甚至沒有對錯，你以為錯的，在別人看來或許是對的。 而你竭盡全力為之奮鬥的，卻很有可能正是別人想擺脫和拋棄的。
四十以後才明白： 生活品質的優劣，完全取決於自己的心態。修饈美味，觥籌交錯間如果掩飾的是爾虞我詐，則遠不如"三五知己坐，淡茶話家常"來得可心。 如果高官厚祿卻窮于心智，惶于任途，就遠不如"采菊東籬下，悠然見南山"活的逍遙。
四十以後才明白：我們的伴侶看似平淡無奇，有些時候甚至難以忍受，其實歲月的年輪早已將彼此交融在一起了，即使惡習俗性，也已成為自己生命的一部分。如果有一天你真的撕毀這不堪的婚姻，就會發現每撕一片都會連著自己的皮肉和筋骨。
四十以後才明白：我們對孩子溺愛就像高脂高糖一樣危害著他們的健康，我們害怕他們走彎路。我們擔心他們吃苦頭，我們憂慮他們經風雨。 我們全家人為他們搭起了大棚，然後呆呆地望著他們柔弱的發育。
找一個能隨時隨地聊天的人在 "藝術人生" 節目裡，主持人問一位有名望的來賓「40歲了怎麼還沒結婚」？ 來賓笑著說「沒有找到合適的」。「想找一個什麼樣的呢？」來賓沉思了片刻，回答：「就想找一個隨時隨地能和我聊天的人！」 主持人笑了：「這還不容易？」來賓大搖其頭，很認真地說：「不容易！不容易！有些話，在有些時候，對有些人。 找到一個你想跟她說，能跟她說的人，不容易！」
另一個是電視連續劇«康熙大帝»裡的康熙，後宮粉黛三千，他最愛的人是容妃。
他到容妃那裡最愛說的話就是「朕想和你說說話！」然後就國事家事地傾訴一番。到後來不得已廢棄容妃後，每每習慣使然，鬱悶時總要走到容妃宮前。但人去宮空，貴為千古大帝，連一個說話的人也沒有！
這兩個成功人士 對愛人的要求都同樣能夠說說話而已！細細想來也就如此：你的事情再偉大，再轟轟烈烈，你也是一個人，一個有七情六慾的平凡的人。也貼心貼肺，知冷知熱，能深刻理解你的思想與情感的人在身邊，跟你交流，溝通。這樣，你就不至於孤單，寂寞希望有那麼一個。
曾經在書上看到這樣一段話：「找一個你愛聊的人做伴，因為當你年齡大了以後，你會發現喜歡聊天是一個人最大的優點。」 當時還以為這只是小女人情懷，現在看來，不只女人，男人更有這樣的要求啊。那就找個你愛聊而興趣相投的人做伴吧。
拉住一個你時時刻刻、隨時隨地想跟她說、又有說不完的話的人的手，你就擁有了康熙都沒有的幸福！
四十以後才明白： 職位只不過是一個杯子，而你的修養和品性才是杯中的尤物，夜光杯中盛的未必就是葡萄美酒，也可能是一杯濁水，粗瓷盞裏不見得就是白開水，很可能是泡的一盞極品龍井。個中的品質全在自己的後天造化！！！
"... 衰老不是從中年開始，而是從對生活的厭倦開始的。 ..." 許多事等您老了才明白:
人到老年，會突然醒悟：生命是有盡頭的。 這種感悟會使他們行動起來，去做一些他們很想做但以前總也沒有做的事情，有時，他們甚至用他們意料不到的方式。
四十以後才明白： 對待父母再不可做薄養厚葬的傻事了，他們那一輩子受的磨礪太多了，善待他們就是善待我們的良心。 說起善待父母都很心疼錢的，但要動動腦筋事情就會圓滿的完成；比如，可以去酒店訂一份極品燕窩湯，端回家告訴父母說是在小攤上買的2元一碗的銀耳湯，然後看著他們幸福的享用，其實大多的時間他們根本就不需要你的榮華，每週問他們一個年輕時候的故事，然後聽著他們講完就很知足了。
許多事等您老了才明白:
人到老年，才真正認識自己： 也才真正屬於自己，並且用一種寬容、舒適和誠實的方式接受自己。
人到老年，方才明白： 東奔西走竭力想去改變的不是別的，恰恰是他們自己。 幾十年的時光換來的不是別的，而是 ...心靜如水。
人到老年，開始明白，老年自有老年的風景。 青春雖然美麗，但它會隨時間的流逝而褪色，而青春的心境才是生命中一道不變的風景。
人到老年，能冷靜地去看待婚姻和家庭。 他們知道 ...世上沒有完全合乎男人心意的女人，也沒有完全合乎女人心意的男人。
人到老年，已懂得安慰自己：並且學會了在似乎無盡的黑暗中... 為自己點一盞希望的燈。
人到老年，看人看事不像過去那麼簡單。 因此，不必非得按別人的主意行事。
人到老年，開始明白，世事並非黑白分明，在黑白之間往往有一系列的中間色。
人到老年，開始明白：人生一世，無論成功與失敗，歡樂與痛苦，盛衰與榮辱，都如自然流水，從哪裡來還將到哪裡去。於是，寧靜致遠。
人到老年，開始明白， 衰老不是從中年開始，而是從對生活的厭倦開始的。
人到老年，開始明白： 孤獨、寂寞、痛苦、失敗，是人生不可缺少的調味品，因此，善待它們，就是善待真實的人生。
人到老年，不再有少年的狂妄、青年的浪漫，更人到老年，不再擁有童年的笑臉和青春的美麗，卻常常在 ...午夜夢迴。多的則是對生活的 ...感悟和理解。
人到老年，能坦然地面對自己的平凡。 他們明白，並非人人都能成功，人人都能大有作為；但做人也是一生的事業，只要自己奮鬥過、追求過，失敗了又何妨？
人到老年，胸懷要開始變得像大海一樣，裝得下...四海風雲，容得下... 千古恩怨。
找一個能隨時隨地聊天的人
四十以後才明白： 好朋友是應該相互欣賞，而不是相互利用。 好朋友只能在同一階層中產生，而窮人和富人，百姓與達官，草根與明星，白丁與學者則永遠也成不了真正意義上的朋友。 因為不在同一階層，便永遠也不會有對方對本階層的深刻體會與感悟。
四十以後才明白： 飯應該一口一口的吃，事要一點一點的做。
沒有一蹴而就的事情，所以就不應該疲於奔命。中年，應該活得從容。
四十以後才明白：任何事物都是有兩重性的，有時候甚至沒有對錯，你以為錯的，在別人看來或許是對的。 而你竭盡全力為之奮鬥的，卻很有可能正是別人想擺脫和拋棄的。
四十以後才明白： 生活品質的優劣，完全取決於自己的心態。修饈美味，觥籌交錯間如果掩飾的是爾虞我詐，則遠不如"三五知己坐，淡茶話家常"來得可心。 如果高官厚祿卻窮于心智，惶于任途，就遠不如"采菊東籬下，悠然見南山"活的逍遙。
四十以後才明白：我們的伴侶看似平淡無奇，有些時候甚至難以忍受，其實歲月的年輪早已將彼此交融在一起了，即使惡習俗性，也已成為自己生命的一部分。如果有一天你真的撕毀這不堪的婚姻，就會發現每撕一片都會連著自己的皮肉和筋骨。
四十以後才明白：我們對孩子溺愛就像高脂高糖一樣危害著他們的健康，我們害怕他們走彎路。我們擔心他們吃苦頭，我們憂慮他們經風雨。 我們全家人為他們搭起了大棚，然後呆呆地望著他們柔弱的發育。
找一個能隨時隨地聊天的人在 "藝術人生" 節目裡，主持人問一位有名望的來賓「40歲了怎麼還沒結婚」？ 來賓笑著說「沒有找到合適的」。「想找一個什麼樣的呢？」來賓沉思了片刻，回答：「就想找一個隨時隨地能和我聊天的人！」 主持人笑了：「這還不容易？」來賓大搖其頭，很認真地說：「不容易！不容易！有些話，在有些時候，對有些人。 找到一個你想跟她說，能跟她說的人，不容易！」
另一個是電視連續劇«康熙大帝»裡的康熙，後宮粉黛三千，他最愛的人是容妃。
他到容妃那裡最愛說的話就是「朕想和你說說話！」然後就國事家事地傾訴一番。到後來不得已廢棄容妃後，每每習慣使然，鬱悶時總要走到容妃宮前。但人去宮空，貴為千古大帝，連一個說話的人也沒有！
這兩個成功人士 對愛人的要求都同樣能夠說說話而已！細細想來也就如此：你的事情再偉大，再轟轟烈烈，你也是一個人，一個有七情六慾的平凡的人。也貼心貼肺，知冷知熱，能深刻理解你的思想與情感的人在身邊，跟你交流，溝通。這樣，你就不至於孤單，寂寞希望有那麼一個。
曾經在書上看到這樣一段話：「找一個你愛聊的人做伴，因為當你年齡大了以後，你會發現喜歡聊天是一個人最大的優點。」 當時還以為這只是小女人情懷，現在看來，不只女人，男人更有這樣的要求啊。那就找個你愛聊而興趣相投的人做伴吧。
拉住一個你時時刻刻、隨時隨地想跟她說、又有說不完的話的人的手，你就擁有了康熙都沒有的幸福！
四十以後才明白： 職位只不過是一個杯子，而你的修養和品性才是杯中的尤物，夜光杯中盛的未必就是葡萄美酒，也可能是一杯濁水，粗瓷盞裏不見得就是白開水，很可能是泡的一盞極品龍井。個中的品質全在自己的後天造化！！！
"... 衰老不是從中年開始，而是從對生活的厭倦開始的。 ..." 許多事等您老了才明白:
人到老年，會突然醒悟：生命是有盡頭的。 這種感悟會使他們行動起來，去做一些他們很想做但以前總也沒有做的事情，有時，他們甚至用他們意料不到的方式。
四十以後才明白： 對待父母再不可做薄養厚葬的傻事了，他們那一輩子受的磨礪太多了，善待他們就是善待我們的良心。 說起善待父母都很心疼錢的，但要動動腦筋事情就會圓滿的完成；比如，可以去酒店訂一份極品燕窩湯，端回家告訴父母說是在小攤上買的2元一碗的銀耳湯，然後看著他們幸福的享用，其實大多的時間他們根本就不需要你的榮華，每週問他們一個年輕時候的故事，然後聽著他們講完就很知足了。
許多事等您老了才明白:
人到老年，才真正認識自己： 也才真正屬於自己，並且用一種寬容、舒適和誠實的方式接受自己。
人到老年，方才明白： 東奔西走竭力想去改變的不是別的，恰恰是他們自己。 幾十年的時光換來的不是別的，而是 ...心靜如水。
人到老年，開始明白，老年自有老年的風景。 青春雖然美麗，但它會隨時間的流逝而褪色，而青春的心境才是生命中一道不變的風景。
人到老年，能冷靜地去看待婚姻和家庭。 他們知道 ...世上沒有完全合乎男人心意的女人，也沒有完全合乎女人心意的男人。
人到老年，已懂得安慰自己：並且學會了在似乎無盡的黑暗中... 為自己點一盞希望的燈。
人到老年，看人看事不像過去那麼簡單。 因此，不必非得按別人的主意行事。
人到老年，開始明白，世事並非黑白分明，在黑白之間往往有一系列的中間色。
人到老年，開始明白：人生一世，無論成功與失敗，歡樂與痛苦，盛衰與榮辱，都如自然流水，從哪裡來還將到哪裡去。於是，寧靜致遠。
人到老年，開始明白， 衰老不是從中年開始，而是從對生活的厭倦開始的。
人到老年，開始明白： 孤獨、寂寞、痛苦、失敗，是人生不可缺少的調味品，因此，善待它們，就是善待真實的人生。
人到老年，不再有少年的狂妄、青年的浪漫，更人到老年，不再擁有童年的笑臉和青春的美麗，卻常常在 ...午夜夢迴。多的則是對生活的 ...感悟和理解。
人到老年，能坦然地面對自己的平凡。 他們明白，並非人人都能成功，人人都能大有作為；但做人也是一生的事業，只要自己奮鬥過、追求過，失敗了又何妨？
人到老年，胸懷要開始變得像大海一樣，裝得下...四海風雲，容得下... 千古恩怨。
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
The Five Love Languages
I just read a book - 'The Five Love Languages' by Gary Chapman. It talks about five specific languages of love:
1. Words of affirmation. People who love Words of Affirmation love to hear encouraging words and verbal compliments.
2. Quality Time. People who prefer Quality Time appreciate others who spend time with them, pay attention to them and do things together with them.
3. Gift. Some people love to accept gift such as flowers, little notes, surprises etc., including the presence of their spouse when they need it the most.
4. Acts of Service. People who enjoy Acts of Service appreciate others for helping them with works, e.g. house works, gardening, laundry etc.
5. Physical Touch. Some people enjoy physical touch, hugs, kisses etc.
Each of us has our preferred love language. What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your spouse.
Most couples get married at the 'Falling in love' stage. At its peak, the 'in love' experience is euphoric. The couple are emotionally obsessed with each other. Unfortunately this 'in love' stage usually will not last forever. After the 'in love' obsession has died and the couple have returned to the real world, this is when they start to see each other's 'problems'.
For example, a husband who needs Words of Affirmation and his wife who likes Quality Time. If the husband never pay attention and spend quality time with his wife, his wife will start to complain about him and never give him any words of affirmation, just keep complaining everyday. Soon both their love tank will be empty and they will be sick of each other. The meaning of Quality Time here does not mean that the husband sits next to his wife but is reading newspapar constantly when his wife is talking to him about something. It means paying attention and respect to the person who is talking. Otherwise it's meaningless even if he claims that he does spend time with his wife.
If a person's love language is not being understood by his/her spouse, his/her love tank will gradually turn low and eventually become empty. From there, he/she may start to turn away and stop speaking his/her spouse's love language, and the spouse's love tank will soon become empty too. On the other hand, if they are able to understand each other's love language and are willing to show it continuously to each other, both their love tank will always be full and they will stay happily together.
Some will say they hate to deliver their spouse's love language, for example Act of Service or Physical Touch, as to them, it doesn't come naturally. Well, love is a choice. We are simply choosing to do it for his/her benefit, not our own. We want to meet our spouse's emotional need. In so doing, his emotional love tank is filled and chances are he will reciprocate and speak our language. When he does, our emotions return, and our love tank begins to fill.
The above mentioned five love languages also apply to parent-child and to friendship. Basically it means we usually get along better with those who can understand and is willing to fulfill our love language's need, and we hate and stay away from those who just never understand it.
So what is your love language??
1. Words of affirmation. People who love Words of Affirmation love to hear encouraging words and verbal compliments.
2. Quality Time. People who prefer Quality Time appreciate others who spend time with them, pay attention to them and do things together with them.
3. Gift. Some people love to accept gift such as flowers, little notes, surprises etc., including the presence of their spouse when they need it the most.
4. Acts of Service. People who enjoy Acts of Service appreciate others for helping them with works, e.g. house works, gardening, laundry etc.
5. Physical Touch. Some people enjoy physical touch, hugs, kisses etc.
Each of us has our preferred love language. What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your spouse.
Most couples get married at the 'Falling in love' stage. At its peak, the 'in love' experience is euphoric. The couple are emotionally obsessed with each other. Unfortunately this 'in love' stage usually will not last forever. After the 'in love' obsession has died and the couple have returned to the real world, this is when they start to see each other's 'problems'.
For example, a husband who needs Words of Affirmation and his wife who likes Quality Time. If the husband never pay attention and spend quality time with his wife, his wife will start to complain about him and never give him any words of affirmation, just keep complaining everyday. Soon both their love tank will be empty and they will be sick of each other. The meaning of Quality Time here does not mean that the husband sits next to his wife but is reading newspapar constantly when his wife is talking to him about something. It means paying attention and respect to the person who is talking. Otherwise it's meaningless even if he claims that he does spend time with his wife.
If a person's love language is not being understood by his/her spouse, his/her love tank will gradually turn low and eventually become empty. From there, he/she may start to turn away and stop speaking his/her spouse's love language, and the spouse's love tank will soon become empty too. On the other hand, if they are able to understand each other's love language and are willing to show it continuously to each other, both their love tank will always be full and they will stay happily together.
Some will say they hate to deliver their spouse's love language, for example Act of Service or Physical Touch, as to them, it doesn't come naturally. Well, love is a choice. We are simply choosing to do it for his/her benefit, not our own. We want to meet our spouse's emotional need. In so doing, his emotional love tank is filled and chances are he will reciprocate and speak our language. When he does, our emotions return, and our love tank begins to fill.
The above mentioned five love languages also apply to parent-child and to friendship. Basically it means we usually get along better with those who can understand and is willing to fulfill our love language's need, and we hate and stay away from those who just never understand it.
So what is your love language??
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Keep up with the modern world
Last week I received many b'day messages on my Facebook's Wall. I was a bit uncomfortable with it so I had a chit chat with my old girlfriends from high school about it. Below is the conversation:
Jo: "Facebook is scary, it's like a broadcasting channel, 'fang ge pi' everyone knows... please try to avoid FB for communication."
Rita: "This is exactly how i feel about FB!!! Why does everyone's wall need to show what i say on other people's wall to be honest? It's kinda silly if you ask me."
Jo: "Can someone educate me how it works?"
Ying: "Go to privacy setting... for b'day, under your privacy setting -> profile info -> b'day, you can set "only friends" + except limited profile ... " (followed by a list of complicated instructions to set other privacy settings)
Duck:"You see, it is easy for an evil person to gather info about you... your birthday, your mum's name, the name of your beloved deceased pet... then the next thing, they can hack into your other private account. I mean you can argue that we are such small fries, who wants to hack into our accounts, but i just don't feel safe."
After reading all these feedbacks from my girl friends, I was thinking to myself... our parent's generation slowly lost touch to what we do nowadays and to the modern gadgets because they seldom follow up with the change and the new ideas. Imagine if we also stop follow up from now on, 10 years later we may not be able to even switch on the latest model of TV, computer (if they still exist and have not been replaced by something else), dial numbers on the latest 'z-Phone' etc.
Recently a friend of mine installed Window 7 on her new laptop. She complained to me that it was simply very difficult to use, as compared to XP, due to the rearrangement of many tabs, buttons, drop down menus etc. She basically found it hard to adapt to the new concept till she almost gave up and wanted to switch back to XP. Then I advised her to keep Window 7 and learn, at least someone can keep up with the latest OS, so that next time she can teach me about it... haha
I am still using Window XP and have no intention to switch to the latest OS. However if I don't learn about Window 7, then comes Window 8 or Window 9, if by that time time I have no choice but to switch due to the incompatibilities of XP to all the latest fancy applications... I can't imagine how lose touch I will be by then.
So my friends, no matter how busy you are with your life, taking care of your husband and kids, I advise you to always keep a young heart and have the curiousity to spend some time to keep up with the modern gadgets.
Jo: "Facebook is scary, it's like a broadcasting channel, 'fang ge pi' everyone knows... please try to avoid FB for communication."
Rita: "This is exactly how i feel about FB!!! Why does everyone's wall need to show what i say on other people's wall to be honest? It's kinda silly if you ask me."
Jo: "Can someone educate me how it works?"
Ying: "Go to privacy setting... for b'day, under your privacy setting -> profile info -> b'day, you can set "only friends" + except limited profile ... " (followed by a list of complicated instructions to set other privacy settings)
Duck:"You see, it is easy for an evil person to gather info about you... your birthday, your mum's name, the name of your beloved deceased pet... then the next thing, they can hack into your other private account. I mean you can argue that we are such small fries, who wants to hack into our accounts, but i just don't feel safe."
After reading all these feedbacks from my girl friends, I was thinking to myself... our parent's generation slowly lost touch to what we do nowadays and to the modern gadgets because they seldom follow up with the change and the new ideas. Imagine if we also stop follow up from now on, 10 years later we may not be able to even switch on the latest model of TV, computer (if they still exist and have not been replaced by something else), dial numbers on the latest 'z-Phone' etc.
Recently a friend of mine installed Window 7 on her new laptop. She complained to me that it was simply very difficult to use, as compared to XP, due to the rearrangement of many tabs, buttons, drop down menus etc. She basically found it hard to adapt to the new concept till she almost gave up and wanted to switch back to XP. Then I advised her to keep Window 7 and learn, at least someone can keep up with the latest OS, so that next time she can teach me about it... haha
I am still using Window XP and have no intention to switch to the latest OS. However if I don't learn about Window 7, then comes Window 8 or Window 9, if by that time time I have no choice but to switch due to the incompatibilities of XP to all the latest fancy applications... I can't imagine how lose touch I will be by then.
So my friends, no matter how busy you are with your life, taking care of your husband and kids, I advise you to always keep a young heart and have the curiousity to spend some time to keep up with the modern gadgets.
Monday, April 19, 2010
Some $ tips...
Stock market is crazy nowadays. It's so full of manipulations from the government, big companies etc. The market has been quite bullish lately. Just 1-2 weeks ago Bloomberg reported that based on all the economy indicators, U.S. economy has shown strong sign of recovery. Then the market turned even more bullish. After few days, it plunged because of one or two bad news. Then Bloomberg started to question the analysts if double dip is coming...
Only those government, big banks and corps waiting to announce financial report, can predict the market. Most of the others will only get the 2nd hand news and by the time the news reach the public, another hidden news is waiting to be announced.
So I totally agree with George Soros, the stock market is full of human manipulations and human emotion that reacts to it. The conclusion is, if you are not an expert, don't try to trade stocks. It is better to buy funds and let the fund managers worry about it. What you need to do is to switch the fund from time to time to lock in your profit when the market is high.
Only those government, big banks and corps waiting to announce financial report, can predict the market. Most of the others will only get the 2nd hand news and by the time the news reach the public, another hidden news is waiting to be announced.
So I totally agree with George Soros, the stock market is full of human manipulations and human emotion that reacts to it. The conclusion is, if you are not an expert, don't try to trade stocks. It is better to buy funds and let the fund managers worry about it. What you need to do is to switch the fund from time to time to lock in your profit when the market is high.
Monday, April 12, 2010
In the mood for...
I found that there are few modes that I can switch to:
1) In normal day, I'm in my 'down-to-earth' mode where my eyes see very 'real' things, and my ears hear noices like cars, construction etc.
2) However some days, when my mood is artistic, my eyes will see an artistic world, where even my plants can look so artistic, and my ears will either hear a quiet world or beautiful music. That's the time I feel really fresh, energetic and creative. Sometimes I wish everyday I wake up in this mode, where the world just seems so beautiful and lovely. I would grab my DSLR and go out shooting.
3) Some days, my minimalist nature will call, my mind will demand to see a very clean and simple environment, any mess will make me stressed. That's the time to do clean up.
4) Some days, my super highly effective nature will call. I'll suddenly feel the urge to do one thousand things in the fastest way. There goes a to-do-list and I am in action.
5) Some days, I am in my planning mode. I will grab paper and pen, or just sit in front of my computer to plan this and that, and reorganize things. That's the time that I feel secure and clear that things are in control.
6) Some days, I am in my learning mode. I will read and read and read non-stop, and make notes on things I learn.
7) Some days, I will be in philosophical mode, where I start to think 'What's the point?', 'What next?', 'Why, what, when, where and how?'... and I will start to ask my friends about their life goals. Sometimes, these questions and the answers make me ponder and puzzle... so far I have not heard of a very exciting answer though...
Just curious, what modes do you have?? Are we seeing the same world, thinking similar things, feeling similar way most of the time, or are we all different and having totally different modes??
1) In normal day, I'm in my 'down-to-earth' mode where my eyes see very 'real' things, and my ears hear noices like cars, construction etc.
2) However some days, when my mood is artistic, my eyes will see an artistic world, where even my plants can look so artistic, and my ears will either hear a quiet world or beautiful music. That's the time I feel really fresh, energetic and creative. Sometimes I wish everyday I wake up in this mode, where the world just seems so beautiful and lovely. I would grab my DSLR and go out shooting.
3) Some days, my minimalist nature will call, my mind will demand to see a very clean and simple environment, any mess will make me stressed. That's the time to do clean up.
4) Some days, my super highly effective nature will call. I'll suddenly feel the urge to do one thousand things in the fastest way. There goes a to-do-list and I am in action.
5) Some days, I am in my planning mode. I will grab paper and pen, or just sit in front of my computer to plan this and that, and reorganize things. That's the time that I feel secure and clear that things are in control.
6) Some days, I am in my learning mode. I will read and read and read non-stop, and make notes on things I learn.
7) Some days, I will be in philosophical mode, where I start to think 'What's the point?', 'What next?', 'Why, what, when, where and how?'... and I will start to ask my friends about their life goals. Sometimes, these questions and the answers make me ponder and puzzle... so far I have not heard of a very exciting answer though...
Just curious, what modes do you have?? Are we seeing the same world, thinking similar things, feeling similar way most of the time, or are we all different and having totally different modes??
Sunday, April 11, 2010
To be or not to be...
So how has my life been since I quit my job end of last year?? Well, I'm basically stress-free, hassle-free, having all the time to myself, so I have nothing to complain really.
I have been learning a lot of new things, mainly related to financial and investment. There are hardly days that I laze around doing nothing, have been just doing this and that non-stop everyday. Guess I am just not the type that can enjoy the rich 'tai tai's' life even if I really become rich. Sometimes I even think it's a waste of time that I'm not doing problem solving nor making decisions on this and that like before. My kepo-chi nature is calling... Guess I'm just like my dad, he told me he can't stand retirement life, feel useless if he is not exercising his brain or making business decisions... haha.
So may be it's time I end my long vacation and get going again??... hmm....
I have been learning a lot of new things, mainly related to financial and investment. There are hardly days that I laze around doing nothing, have been just doing this and that non-stop everyday. Guess I am just not the type that can enjoy the rich 'tai tai's' life even if I really become rich. Sometimes I even think it's a waste of time that I'm not doing problem solving nor making decisions on this and that like before. My kepo-chi nature is calling... Guess I'm just like my dad, he told me he can't stand retirement life, feel useless if he is not exercising his brain or making business decisions... haha.
So may be it's time I end my long vacation and get going again??... hmm....
Friday, March 19, 2010
Anego forever...
Somehow after I quit my job, I still get calls and emails from time to time from my ex-colleagues, asking me for work related advice.
I got a call during CNY from my ex-subordinate who went to work in Singapore 2-3 years ago. He knew from others that I have quit my job but then he still thought of getting advice from me on his future career options. He told me that he is thinking of either changing the section, or moving to another company of the same industry, or switching to work for the customer. I asked him what his priorities of life are now - $$, career, family, time, freedom?? I knew he left my ex-company with the aim to earn and save more $$, so he chose to go to Singapore. So I asked if he has got any promotion or increment, and what he is not happy about his current position. He said his job has been very stressful and living in Singapore is quite hectic. He has got married 1-2 year ago, his wife is with him in Singapore, but he has no time for her. So based on his feedback, I gave him some advice and options to think about which he was quite happy about.
Another day, I received a phone call from my ex-boss who has also left the company and moved back to KL. He seems to be not doing very well recently, so he called me to chat and to seek for advice too. So I also apply the 5D problem solving methodology, i.e. Gather data to establish the problem statement, analyzing the root cause, think of the corrective and preventive action etc.
(By the way, I have just learned from financial planning a similar flow which goes this way: Data gathering -> Analyze data to determine strategy -> Work out the best strategies to meet needs -> Prepare plan -> Implement the plan -> Review and improve on the plan).
Today I received an email from another angmo ex-colleague from the U.S.. She has just got promoted to become a section manager. Well, she used to seek for my advice quite often on work related items. She told me she miss me a lot after I left. Then in her email, she told me that the global team is lack of efficiency nowadays etc. So I wrote her an email analyzing the issues she mentioned and suggesting some ways to improve it.
After replying her email, I thought to myself... how come I am still living my life as an 'Anego' busy solving other's issue, even after I quit my job??... I think most of these people think I won't mind helping them. Well in fact, I really don't mind, I actually kind of enjoying my role as an 'Anego'.
Guess I will continue to be an 'Anego' forever.
I got a call during CNY from my ex-subordinate who went to work in Singapore 2-3 years ago. He knew from others that I have quit my job but then he still thought of getting advice from me on his future career options. He told me that he is thinking of either changing the section, or moving to another company of the same industry, or switching to work for the customer. I asked him what his priorities of life are now - $$, career, family, time, freedom?? I knew he left my ex-company with the aim to earn and save more $$, so he chose to go to Singapore. So I asked if he has got any promotion or increment, and what he is not happy about his current position. He said his job has been very stressful and living in Singapore is quite hectic. He has got married 1-2 year ago, his wife is with him in Singapore, but he has no time for her. So based on his feedback, I gave him some advice and options to think about which he was quite happy about.
Another day, I received a phone call from my ex-boss who has also left the company and moved back to KL. He seems to be not doing very well recently, so he called me to chat and to seek for advice too. So I also apply the 5D problem solving methodology, i.e. Gather data to establish the problem statement, analyzing the root cause, think of the corrective and preventive action etc.
(By the way, I have just learned from financial planning a similar flow which goes this way: Data gathering -> Analyze data to determine strategy -> Work out the best strategies to meet needs -> Prepare plan -> Implement the plan -> Review and improve on the plan).
Today I received an email from another angmo ex-colleague from the U.S.. She has just got promoted to become a section manager. Well, she used to seek for my advice quite often on work related items. She told me she miss me a lot after I left. Then in her email, she told me that the global team is lack of efficiency nowadays etc. So I wrote her an email analyzing the issues she mentioned and suggesting some ways to improve it.
After replying her email, I thought to myself... how come I am still living my life as an 'Anego' busy solving other's issue, even after I quit my job??... I think most of these people think I won't mind helping them. Well in fact, I really don't mind, I actually kind of enjoying my role as an 'Anego'.
Guess I will continue to be an 'Anego' forever.
Learnings...
I'm deeply sorry, I almost forgot I have a blog to update... haha.
Some learnings to share:
1. Financial planning (which involves risk management, taxation, investment, retirement planning, estate planning) is something that I didn't have time to explore in details all these years but I find it a very interesting topic to learn.
2. Cold calling is extremely challenging, where the biggest barrier comes from oneself. Many successful business depends on cold calling to create leads. We should pay respect to good sales persons for their courage, knowledge and skill in interacting with strangers. Next area I want to challenge myself would be sales and marketing!
3. Nowadays, knowledge is power!!
4. One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus and concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way thru life, never deciding to master anything in particular.
5. Not many businesses are really very successful, a lot of them are just sustaining. What makes a difference is how one can differentiate its business from other competitions, i.e. to possess its unique competitive advantage.
6. To do everything by oneself is not considered as owning a business but as being self employed.
7. Health is important. Yoga is good for health and mental.
8. Five important things to practise everyday: 1) Good diet 2) Good sleep 3) Breath slowly 4) Exercise 5) Positive thinking.
Happy living!!
Some learnings to share:
1. Financial planning (which involves risk management, taxation, investment, retirement planning, estate planning) is something that I didn't have time to explore in details all these years but I find it a very interesting topic to learn.
2. Cold calling is extremely challenging, where the biggest barrier comes from oneself. Many successful business depends on cold calling to create leads. We should pay respect to good sales persons for their courage, knowledge and skill in interacting with strangers. Next area I want to challenge myself would be sales and marketing!
3. Nowadays, knowledge is power!!
4. One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus and concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way thru life, never deciding to master anything in particular.
5. Not many businesses are really very successful, a lot of them are just sustaining. What makes a difference is how one can differentiate its business from other competitions, i.e. to possess its unique competitive advantage.
6. To do everything by oneself is not considered as owning a business but as being self employed.
7. Health is important. Yoga is good for health and mental.
8. Five important things to practise everyday: 1) Good diet 2) Good sleep 3) Breath slowly 4) Exercise 5) Positive thinking.
Happy living!!
Friday, January 01, 2010
It's 2010!!
Remember the time when everyone was worried about Y2K problem? Well, it has been 10 years since then.
We have lived in the new millenium for 10 years now. What have you done in this 10 years?? Mind to let me know??
I have grown from a little girl newly graduated from the university to this me now, with a little bit more wisdom, and a lot less passion. Sad in a way but glad that I'm no longer that little naive girl, actually I'm quite happy to be the me now.
Well do share with me what you think about 2010. Happy New Year!!
We have lived in the new millenium for 10 years now. What have you done in this 10 years?? Mind to let me know??
I have grown from a little girl newly graduated from the university to this me now, with a little bit more wisdom, and a lot less passion. Sad in a way but glad that I'm no longer that little naive girl, actually I'm quite happy to be the me now.
Well do share with me what you think about 2010. Happy New Year!!
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